Okay, this is all hypothetical of course . . .
There was this woman and man who were fostering a child long ago. There was still visits with the bio-mom and she was looney. The county really didn't want to fight her for her rights. She finally relinquished her rights because said child was really behaving badly for her at visits, mom was severely mentally ill and also because the county promised her updates and/or pictures two times a year. The mom signed off on her rights to child. Foster family was bound to send updates and pictures.
Foster family adopts child. County of child (very near foster family county) doesn't even show up at court. No one from county is present and nothing has been sent from county. The lawyer of the family was thrilled that mother's request of updates and/or pictures 2x yearly was not entered into record, says it is in families best interest. Family still decides to continue with updates.
About three years into adoption the county worker calls. Says June update was overdue and mom was driving her nuts calling daily. Worker tells mom it MUST be sent out ASAP. Adoptive Mom is having a very difficult summer and forgets. Worker calls in 4 days and tells mom is in contempt of court order and to send it IMMEDIATELY or else. Mom tells worker to go take a leap and quit threatening her. Mom informs worker that NOTHING was in adoption decree about updates and they are coming at the discretion of parents and they will get there but worker needs to HOLD HER HORSES and wait until parents who are caring for extremely difficult child can catch their breath and buy some freaking stamps!
Worker gets pissed and says she is calling county lawyer. Mom gets call back in 15 minutes. Worker is terribly sorry and lawyer agrees that nothing is in court adoption decree and very sorry for the threats. Country screwed the pooch and bio mom could sue adoptive family for the updates. Adopted mom says over her dead body because it was closed adoption and the bio mom cannot sue them because she should have no idea who they are.
Mom sends update in a couple weeks. Updates continue to be sent to child by bio mom that new parents choose to file instead of read to him. PArents continue to send updates more or less on schedule for the next 4 years.
Two years ago the adoptive family got fed up with questions from mom in her letters about what activities he likes, does he play sports, what kind of books does he read, and what are his friends like? Adoptive mom send letter saying, "He plays with Dora, cannot possibly play sports, cannot read and has no friends because you drank while pregnant so he is terribly screwed up. We love him dearly, but he is not a typical 12 year old." Adoptive parents were very honest. They have not received an update from bio mom since.
This afternoon while mom may have been sitting in the DMV for a reallllllly long time, she decides to call to see if bio-mom was still contacting them and if it was really necessary to continue to send updates since they were no receiving any. ( and mom was 2 months late in sending this summers update) Worker was an ass. Worker said she had not received anything from adoptive parents since 2004 and that she counseled mom to "take it to court" about a year ago. Adopted mom flipped-the-heck-out on the phone with worker.
Worker calls back in 20 minnutes saying she found a different file with updates the mom said they sent. Apologizes for error. Says that she has no contact info for mom any longer. Adoptive mom asks if she should continue to send updates she refuses to answer and says, "Its not my job to tell you that."
What does adoptive family do?
If, of course, this was a real situation??
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