Friday, November 12, 2010

Another one bites the dust . . .

By now I am sure this is old news to some of you, but I have something to say. The "witch hunt" that seems to be effecting some in the blogging world who have traumatized kids has claimed another family.

First it was Foster Abba and Foster Eema. They fought so hard to keep "Danielle" in their home and had their fair share of problems with her behavior and getting "the system" and professionals see that there were some issues there. It did not help that Ms. Teacher was secretly against them and passing "Danielle" without completing her work. The were on the receiving end of some really bad stuff that was initiated by some blog readers. Disgusting. They shut down their blog.

Then of course we had the lovely Lisa. Lisa had made incredible strides with J. in her home. She found a fabulous therapist in Ms. Christy and really made a difference in a child's life. I witnessed first hand the amazing transformation J. made when I spent a couple days with her and Lisa back in April. Lisa took on another child and was working really hard to make that child well too. DFC got wind of her blog and made her shut it down. She is going through some really rough times. It. Is. Sick.

Enter Tudu. Tudu had taken in siblings of her children. She was constantly receiving approval from the workers on all the steps they take in their home to keep the kids safe. She is a wonderful and appropriate home for these kids. They are family. The three children were removed this week by DFC. This is from her facebook page: "The reason they were removed, get ready for this, I have used poor judgement by blogging so the kids are in immediate danger. Seriously. I'm dangerous because I was blogging, have since shut it down, signed an affidavit that I wouldn't do it anymore, and another to say I won't video tape my kids. I couldn't make this stuff up. Our other children are also at risk for removal because of this."

This is wrong on so many levels. I cannot even begin to fathom what they are going through. And the kids sitting in foster care not knowing if they are coming home hurts my heart.

Then we have Atlasien who no longer blogs. Kari who has opened another, more stealthy blog. Linda who has gone private both fearing repercussions from blogging about their trouble kiddos, or just plain worried they are too easy to find. Another favorite, Mom in The Trench in inexplicably disappeared.

I don't think I would be the parent I am today without knowing that I am not alone. I do know that if I had not found the blogging community I am not sure Dustin would be with us today. I am fairly certain he would be in a residential or institutional setting. When I starting blogging I had no support system. Robert and I were floundering. We were alone in this. Raising a traumatized child is hard. It helps to know you are not the only one seeing similar behaviors.

Tudu needs your help. She would like letters sent from readers that have been touched, inspired or helped due to her blogging. If you are interested please email her at for information.

This has to stop.


marythemom said...

I too don't know what I would have done without the blogging world, and I too have thought seriously about stopping even though I really don't have a lot of support elsewhere. Mine is less because I'm afraid someone will harass us and take our kids, and more because it bothers my son so much. I miss all the great bloggers you mentioned and more. There are so few resources out there for RAD parents as it is.

Thanks for being here and posting!

Mary in TX

GB's Mom said...

I don't know if it will work, but I am willing to try. These people can't cover their case load properly, and they go inventing problems. Our tax dollars at work.

FosterAbba said...

I blogged about this story this morning.